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02-08-2009
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 When Online Dating Doesn’t Work…
For every online dating success story you read, there are as many people saying “It doesn’t work!”. These nay-sayers have had unsuccessful experiences in the online dating world, but should they be blaming the dating service or themselves? Many people think that online dating is a quick and easy solution to finding The One, but while this is true, there is also some effort required.
The first problem people run into when using an online dating service is that they don’t put enough effort into their profile. Some people rely solely on a sexy picture, and are surprised when all they get are requests for booty calls. Others create profiles that, while in-depth, are too vague. “I like going out, and I like staying in sometimes” doesn’t really tell readers anything about you or your personality. You can accurately depict your personality without giving away too much personal information, so take your time when writing your profile.
The second problem that cynics run into is when contacting prospects. Because online dating is supposed to make finding a date easier, it’s common for users to try to take the easy way out. Some people play the waiting game, posting their profile and waiting for people to reply. Others use a more forward, albeit equally as lazy, approach: they send out the same email to many different prospects. The problem with this is, although it is more assertive, people can usually tell when an email is not personalized. So, try to find the middle ground. Don’t wait around; make the first move, and make sure your emails are personalized.
Finally, there is the issue of time. Many users simply get impatient after a few weeks of unsuccessful contact. With paid dating sites, many singles only give online dating a chance for as long as their free trial period lasts. But just like it does in the offline dating scene, it should be kept in mind that it takes time to make a love connection.
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09-07-2009
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 What Men Really Want In Modern Relationships
Women often say that men confuse them and that they are unsure what a man is really looking for. They have tried to please them in the past and it has not worked so no, the man can concentrate on pleasing them or leave. If the media is to be believed, many women do not care what a man is looking for because they have been empowered by their own sexuality and are comfortable in their new role as sexually liberated career woman in charge of their own destiny.
Okay so what is a man seeking?
First of all a man is seeking a love-interest. This may surprise many women but men like to love and they like being loved in return. The problem is that many women come across as impassioned and cold. It is not easy to find a loving woman and it is very noticeable how many men try and hang on when they think they have found their Miss Right.
Men are seeking a woman who is attractive to them. Women may despair that men can be so shallow and that looks could matter so much but be careful. Men arent necessarily looking for a catwalk model and many men do not like women who weigh 80lbs. But men do want a woman who takes pride in their appearance (though not excessively). Men are proud of having a girlfriend who looks good and I do not believe any man who says otherwise.
Men are looking for a trustworthy girl, someone they can have faith in and someone who will be there for them. This may sound like an odd thing to say, but the fact is, some women are not trustworthy and many are not faithful either.
Men want to make a home eventually and are looking for a woman who will be a willing sharer in home life. Women with a sociable lifestyle are attractive because they can be relied upon to keep the social diary running in a long term relationship.
Men are seeking women who are feminine gentle and kind because deep down the qualities that make a woman a great mother are an attraction in themselves. I am not suggesting that the man himself needs mothering, though some do, it is more the point that men seek the attributes in women that point to someone who would make a great mother to future offspring.
Men want women with a great sense of humor. Women often come across as uptight or too bothered by too many small details. What this means is that she is able to fit in with their humor and is sociable and fun to be with. Such women are extremely attractive to many men. Men want to have a good time and relax when not working and so their ideal partners are women who are able to do the same.
Men want someone who is supportive. Many women are quick to criticize men in their behaviour, career and set about trying to alter them and mould them. This is a crucial mistake. Men can be manipulated yes, but they see their partnerships as support systems. The best relationships work both ways in terms of support. Where a woman is not able or willing to give that support and is too quick to criticize then she may lose her man.
Men love a challenging woman, someone who keeps them on their toes. Men are generally lazy in relationships once they feel they are in secure territory. When a man is challenged so he does something about it. If you want to keep your man interested, keep him challenged.
Men do not want to be alone! |
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09-07-2009
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 Perfect Screen Name
A Screen Name is almost as important as a picture for a first impression when it comes to online dating. Just as your profile photo should be nice, clear and realistic, it is the same important to have a nice and somewhat normal screen name.
If you are really there to meet someone with the intention of a potential relationship then a name like sexysugarlips may give people the wrong impression. It has been proven that overly sexy names attract the wrong kind of people with not so innocent intentions.
Think about your screen name and what it says about you. Try to keep it personal but not too personal as to include your real name. For example sexysamsmith is also a little too revealing. If you chose something between like optimisticlady or friendlyanimallover (not to be taken out of context) then chances are people will understand that you are serious and not looking for creeps to contact you.
A good screen name is eye-catching and also helps men zone in on what they are looking for by being descriptive and factual. Example of good screen names:
blondebeauty
petitebrunette
trulycute
gorgeousgreeneyez
Do not write anything obscure or anything that requires extensive deciphering. This will attract no one. Men are not looking for Shakespeare or Hemingway when they browse. They are looking for a picture they find attractive and a fun description. They do not want to work that hard. And when they think you are working too hard, they wonder what is wrong with you that you have to work so hard. So do not try to be so original or poetic, just be as light and breezy as you can.
Be creative but keep it real this way you can never really go wrong and misrepresent yourself. It is also to okay to sign emails and message with this name until you are prepared to reveal your real name and if you are not ready to do so you should never feel pressured to. Just remember to follow your gut feeling in every situation and you should be just fine. |
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